Join WIPLA at MacArthur Park Restaurant in Palo Alto from 5:30-7:30 p.m. this Thursday (6/9) for cocktails and friendly networking with your fellow female intellectual property litigators from the San Francisco Bay Area.
Register here.
Cheers!
Join WIPLA at MacArthur Park Restaurant in Palo Alto from 5:30-7:30 p.m. this Thursday (6/9) for cocktails and friendly networking with your fellow female intellectual property litigators from the San Francisco Bay Area.
Register here.
Cheers!
Posted in Free Events
Tagged cocktails, intellectual property, litigator, networking, WIPLA, women
My last post was about “Why I Don’t Like Being a Lawyer.”
In the interest of fairness, here’s what I do like about being part of the profession, alongside quotes from the “classic” movie Clueless to help make my points. (I know I said that film portrayals of lawyers are completely inaccurate, but arguing out of both sides of my mouth comes naturally).
Mel (Cher’s father): You mean to tell me that you argued your way from a C+ to an A-?
Cher: Totally based on my powers of persuasion, you proud?
Mel: Honey, I couldn’t be happier than if they were based on real grades.
Cher: I felt impotent and out of control. Which I really, really hate.
Josh (Cher’s ex-stepbrother): Do you have any idea what you’re talking about?
Cher: No. Why, does it sound like I do?
Cher: Daddy’s a litigator. Those are the scariest kinds of lawyers. Even Lucy, our maid, is terrified of him. He’s so good he gets paid five hundred dollars an hour just to fight with people, but he fights with me for free ’cause I’m his daughter.
Josh: I was thinking about looking into environmental law.
Mel: Why? You want to have a frustrating and miserable life?
Cher: Oh, Josh will have that no matter what he does.
Cher: It’s like that book I read in the 9th grade that said “’tis a far far better thing doing stuff for other people.”
Today’s verdict: It’s too soon to throw in the towel. (And I clearly need to grow up and out of the 90’s).
Posted in Dilemma Diary
Tagged judge, lawyer, litigator, profession, prosecutor, salary, workplace
Just when I thought I was achieving some sort of work-life balance, or at least getting over some of my working mom guilt, opposing counsel reminded me today why I don’t like being a lawyer. Forget my dilemma whether to be a SAHM or stay in the workforce: today’s encounter makes me rethink my whole decision to stick with a legal career period.
Dealing with an East Coast (insert explicative here) lawyer on the phone and in e-mails over the past few days, I have had the distinct pleasure of of being yelled at, belittled, spoken to in condescending tones, called a liar and anything else unpleasant you can possibly imagine. I’m a civil litigator, so I suppose occasional run-ins with (insert same explicative here) attorneys is just part of my job. But my tolerance for these discourteous exchanges is wearing thin.
Yes, you could say that as a litigator, I am paid to argue with – even yell at – people, but the best lawyers know that civility trumps rudeness and pettiness in the long run. All of my mentors have practiced this way and I, myself, subscribe to the same philosophy. The problem is you can’t pick your opponents. You hope that you’ll be paired against a worthy adversary, but more often than not you are faced with a pompous idiot who wants to argue until he’s blue in the face.
On days like today, I think of all the other things that I would be happy doing instead of sitting at my desk on the receiving end of some ridiculous, infantile rant to which my recent opponents are so often prone: editing, writing, designing, decorating, running my own stationery business. All of these other professions would still allow me to be a role model to Jane, even though technically, I might not be a “professional.” With all the career choices available to women nowadays, who’s to say that being a doctor or a lawyer is a far superior career than any other. I do enjoy being part of a traditional “profession,” but perhaps not enough to keep at it. At least not in my current role.
Today’s Verdict: Quit altogether.